How to turn everyone into your matchmaker

You may have heard by now that a friend set up Meghan Markle on a blind date, and her date turned out to be royalty. Now she’s the Duchess of Sussex.

The thing about blind dates is that they don’t always need to be a shot in the dark. Most people who are single seem to shy away from telling anyone that they are. People associate a feeling of shame with being single. I don’t get it if you’re excited about buying a house, a boat, or a car, you’ll talk to anyone who will listen about it, but people don’t get excited about finding a relationship.

I can discuss mindset and how that alone can keep you single, but for this topic, let’s talk about what you need to do to lessen the time it will take you to meet the one.

Here’s the deal, why do all the work? Let your friends, family, and even your acquaintances be your matchmakers who set you up on plenty of blind dates. Keep an open heart, open mind, and if you follow my matchmaker tips for getting suitable matches, people will help you find your prince(s).

For starters, let’s get these seven keys in motion!

  1. Get clear on what’s a good match for you. If you’ve been choosing the wrong partners in the past, you need to break the cycle. You can figure out how to make better partner choices by working with the right relationship expert to guide you along the way. Don’t assume that all therapists can help you; someone with expertise in relationships is your best choice; they may even help you clear up some of your relationship blind spots. The point here is if you’re going to tell people to set you up, you’ll need to be fully aware of what’s the right partner for you, so you describe him to them.
  2. Let everyone you meet know that you’re single and open to getting introduced to anyone who comes as a recommendation from a friend. Some people will think they have someone they can present to you, but may shy away from doing so because they don’t know if an introduction will put you off.
  3. Communicate with your friends what are your critical core values. Sometimes conversations are so superficial, but it’s good for your friends to know what’s important to you. Whether it be religion, family values, trustworthiness, and others. Give this information to your friends so they can do the due diligence on your behalf to find you a brilliant match.
  4. Make sure that your potential matchmaker knows about your deal breakers. For some, it may be visible tattoos, cheaters, drug users, or alcoholics; whatever the case may be, just let them know what these are for you.
  5. Is there a particular look that you prefer? Maybe there’s a celebrity that’s an excellent example of what you find attractive. That’s always helpful, be realistic.
  6. You should always mention the qualities that make you a superb partner. Let’s face it if people have only seen you single, and they may not know how you interact when you’re with a significant other.
  7. Make sure that your ideal match will also find you attractive. Sometimes, people are single because they have very unrealistic expectations. If you want to meet someone who is not critical, you can’t be critical. And the science shows that couples who are of equal levels of attractiveness are more likely to succeed.

Often, if you’re looking for someone to complete you, then you’ve still got some work to do on yourself before you’re ready for setups. Someone who is relationship-ready wants a whole person, not half a person or a needy person. Work through your emotional baggage with a professional, then turn everyone into your matchmaker!